tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post2148257402615500886..comments2023-10-25T06:21:56.176-04:00Comments on The... Occupant: Men and Womenonmiownnow2http://www.blogger.com/profile/07177087840024537738noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-66080290643528679932004-05-21T10:01:00.000-04:002004-05-21T10:01:00.000-04:00While I agree they can be annoying, I think you ar...While I agree they can be annoying, I think you are selling men short. We don't wish for hairs on our chins or upper lips, we don't worry about our voices changing, we don't agonize over rejections, we aren't expected to pretend to be fearless, we can talk to a friend if we find a lump in the wrong place, if we think our breasts are too small we can go buy bigger ones, being short is OK, we can always perform sexually, we aren't embarassed if we want to fuss over a baby or a puppy, we don't feel we have to drive like assholes to impress anyone, we don't worry about anyone wondering if maybe we could possibly have an interest in our own sex (in fact, many men wish we did), and on and on...we just have different insecurities. I also don't think men age better than women. I think WOMEN cut themselves short and tell each other we age badly. Women don't get old. They get beautiful. Ask any man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-91356605361301648852004-05-21T10:07:00.000-04:002004-05-21T10:07:00.000-04:00There are always two sides to every argument. Thi...There are always two sides to every argument. This is mine. I think somebody wants to be the girl that all the boys like today! LOL! Lisa (The Occupant)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-6135199958230953412004-05-21T10:50:00.000-04:002004-05-21T10:50:00.000-04:00Lisa, You sound bitter about men and getting...Lisa,<br> You sound bitter about men and getting older. I'm older than you.<br><br> Your birthday is soon, and I read your Journal, but you are beating yourself up and blaming men in general for it. Does Ray expect you to be a fashion plate at all times or are you setting goals that are unattainable and frustrated that you can't reach them? <br> Remember "Christmas Vacation" with Chevy Chase? He wanted a "perfect" Christmas. Not going to happen. People, male and female, make mistakes.<br><br> We all go through self doubt, worry and howling at the injustice of aging. You are not alone. <br> <br> Perhaps you should try to see things from a different perspective. You don't have to be perfect all of the time. You are a beautiful woman, but you are letting minor things bother you.<br><br> I feel that a lot of this runs deeper than you are letting us know. If you love men, why not tell us what you like that men do instead of trashing them?<br>Perhaps you feel slighted in some way by someone you love or loved and this is <br>your way of letting it out. Maybe not. <br><br> There seems to be an emotional struggle inside of you and a Sam Kinnison type scream about getting older and your life not exactly working out the way that you envisioned it.<br><br> Be yourself and don't try so hard to please everyone else. We like you or we wouldn't be reading your Journal.<br> <br><br>Best,<br>Debi<br> <br> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-55678617347630768862004-05-21T11:38:00.000-04:002004-05-21T11:38:00.000-04:00You did a great job with this topic, Lisa. I'...You did a great job with this topic, Lisa. I've read some of the litany in jokes and rants elsewhere, but you have managed to bring it all together with humor into a palatable whole. Thanks for that - old pharts like myself need to be reminded about the trials and tribulations of being a woman. Good on you, kiddo.<br><br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-72583844460177618102004-05-21T12:08:00.000-04:002004-05-21T12:08:00.000-04:00 (Men) "They're never, ever distracte... (Men) "They're never, ever distracted by thoughts of all they have to do tomorrow while they're having sex tonight," you said in your Journal.<br> <br> This sounds like you don't like making love. I am never distracted when making love because I'm too busy trying to make sure the my husband enjoys it <br>as much as I do. It's like a back massage only on the inside. <br><br> How can you think of anything else while you are in the heat of passion? <br><br> Just because a woman enjoys making love doesn't make her a slut.<br>Too many women think that way, that it's a "duty" to be performed to shut the husband up. The husband can sense this and it can cause problems in other ways. Make love to your husband because you love him, and enjoy it. It it causes you pain to make love, you may need medical assistance, or it could be something emotionally holding you back from enjoying making love.<br> The fastest way to lose a husband is to cut him off from making love...it means you are rejecting his way of completely embracing you as a person. <br>The Wedding vows state to "love, honor and cherish" and to him if you aren't doing this, you've broken the Wedding contract and he may seek comfort elsewhere. Women and men see making love differently. Talking this out with your partner can save a lot of grief and perhaps help solve the misunderstandings<br>in a relationship. It's important to keep your man happy if you want to be happy.<br><br>Best,<br>Debi<br> <br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-56548013972231712552004-05-21T13:12:00.000-04:002004-05-21T13:12:00.000-04:00I think this is funny as hell, but I also have a s...I think this is funny as hell, but I also have a sense of humor and know what to take serious and what not to. I think some people need to lighten up (not you).<br>All I see is a funny entry, not a reason to attempt a pyschological analysis on you or your marriage! Oh, I came by here via Wil's journal link to this entry.<br>You made me laugh, and I personally LOVE MEN too! But I also can laugh at myself too and the antics we all do.<br>Take care,<br>Penny<br>http://journals.aol.com/lucylouladybug/OnTheTipOfMyWingsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-30301177713437787462004-05-21T13:23:00.000-04:002004-05-21T13:23:00.000-04:00 How is disrespecting men funny? I have a sense... How is disrespecting men funny? I have a sense of humor, but this doesn't make me laugh.<br><br>DebiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-52257345978807164782004-05-21T13:43:00.000-04:002004-05-21T13:43:00.000-04:00 You can delete my entries since you were ju... You can delete my entries since you were just "kidding" and you didn't want any advice. I was just trying to help obviously where none was wanted. If you find the degradation of the opposite sex funny, that's your right. It's your Journal. I don't find it funny, I find it sad that we poke fun at someone we are supposed to love.<br><br>DebiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-62512295543490045662004-05-21T14:51:00.000-04:002004-05-21T14:51:00.000-04:00haha .. i read that and i haven't laughed that har...haha .. i read that and i haven't laughed that hard in a long time .. i'm glad you posted the letter !!<br>thanks for the laughs this morning !!<br>pamela (who thinks nobody need apologize for finding something funny that was intended to be humorous !!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-54471090828681633322004-05-21T15:19:00.000-04:002004-05-21T15:19:00.000-04:00They die before us which is maybe the universe's w...They die before us which is maybe the universe's way of keeping a fair balance. LOL! Or, maybe our lives are so crappy, it just seems that way. <br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-26002898312044378382004-05-21T15:24:00.000-04:002004-05-21T15:24:00.000-04:00I think a good sense of humor is a healthy thing. ...I think a good sense of humor is a healthy thing. I think most wives can relate on at least *some* level. But I happen to think, on the whole, that most men are pretty awesome. There are exceptions, of course, but I've always found myself surrounded by wonderfully supportive, responsible, and sensitive men. Granted, they'll NEVER know what it means to be a woman. But I certainly couldn't imagine what it would be to be a man either - nor would I want to. LOL So I'm pretty happy with my role as a woman.. and I'm pretty thankful for the men in my life. No bleach required here, thanks. :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-24417805227470595342004-05-21T15:25:00.000-04:002004-05-21T15:25:00.000-04:00Good grief! I'm not crazy! Just to be sure.....Good grief! I'm not crazy! Just to be sure... I'm going to have my head examined right after it's cleaned, pressed and martinized. (I've read THAT can be done in an hour). I like men. And sex. I don't want to grow old but if I have to, I want to laugh the whole time. I see humor in everything. In my darkest hour, I may be shaking, but I'll make some sort of a wise crack. Never take anything I say seriously. My kids don't, why should you? My sole intention in writing is to make people laugh. If you're not smiling, then you're taking it the wrong way or I've finally gone over the edge. If that ever happens... I hope I did the laundry that week and I'm not found wearing Ray's underwear. Lisa<br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-87668083565885500792004-05-21T18:41:00.000-04:002004-05-21T18:41:00.000-04:00Wow! You have caused QUITE a ruckus, haven't you, ...Wow! You have caused QUITE a ruckus, haven't you, Lisa?! Hmmm..call ME crazy but I totally got what you were saying and I certainly do not think that you A) disrespected men or B) sold yourself short! This was completely humorous!! If you can't laugh, you cry, right? Can I buy you a cold drink to quell the hot flashes?! And for the record: I love men but I certainly wouldn't wanna be one!! (Too many dangly parts!) LOL!! GREAT ENTYR LISA!! SharonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-33688847268338777442004-05-21T20:14:00.000-04:002004-05-21T20:14:00.000-04:00Lisa, I don't know you well and have not been...Lisa, I don't know you well and have not been to your journal very often (shame on me), but what I see here is an entry intended to make us laugh. Sometimes when I write in my journal and I get responses which tend to be more of a lecture than is needed or appreciated, I think to myself--"these people just don't get me." I love having a journal to come to when I'm having a bad day or a hard time and just writing everything out of me. In the heat of the moment, I know that I can come across as man-hating, but NOTHING could be further than the truth. I don't often write about the things that make me happy (in my relationships) because when I'm happy, I don't feel the need to pound on my keyboard and let the frustration and anger out of me. I could feel hopeless in the morning, but by the afternoon feel just fine--and having a place to come to where I feel LISTENED TO is so very important to me...I did not read this and think you have a problem with men...you are trying to find the humor in a life that is SOMETIMES disappointing and hard and unrewarding. And you end this entry with hope...there is nothing more positive than hope...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-41926210768456143892004-05-22T00:27:00.000-04:002004-05-22T00:27:00.000-04:00 You don't want to wear the pants in the f... You don't want to wear the pants in the family, just the underwear!<br><br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-26174205247224966712004-05-22T00:58:00.000-04:002004-05-22T00:58:00.000-04:00I THINK THIS WAS THE ABSOLUTE BEST ENTRY I HAVE EV...I THINK THIS WAS THE ABSOLUTE BEST ENTRY I HAVE EVER READ! I LOVE YOU LISA!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-1419768964758884892004-05-22T06:57:00.000-04:002004-05-22T06:57:00.000-04:00oh my, what have we got going on here? Are you mi...oh my, what have we got going on here? Are you mixing up a little brew haha here? My dad was a man ~ no doubts and I heard him make fun of himself and men in general ... just as I have made fun of women and myself in general. Sometimes we all need to lighten up and laugh at ourselves. Oh, and I LOVE the men in my life but, I don't wanna be one! I think my fiancee would tell me he wouldn't want to be a woman! Whew. Keep smiling and keep laughing at life in general.<br><br>MonicaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-61013677312379122142004-05-22T10:25:00.000-04:002004-05-22T10:25:00.000-04:00Let me go farther on my response, OK? From Lisa I ...Let me go farther on my response, OK? From Lisa I read that she feels women get old and men get better. I personally do not like to see women degrade themselves like that. While humorously and well written, I heard insecurity coming through. Men age, women age. Men do not do it better. Women themselves will hike up a man's ego and tell him he looks better as he gets old and then for some reason I don't understand, they degrade themselves. If we think and act attractive and sexy, men will see us that way also. They are more visual than we are. I don't undertand the hardwiring, but it seems to be true. If we show confidence in how we look, they will respond to it. I am guessing Lisa and Ray have a good relationship, but I think Ray has to constantly tell Lisa how great she looks and to stop trying so hard. Lisa, you look wonderful. You are a strong, healthy, normal woman going through a normal stage of life. There is some true freedom that comes to women in their 50s that they have never felt before. Go with it, enjoy it, and it can make your relationship stronger. No one said menopause is easy, but you, yourself, are only getting more beautiful. Try to relax and enjoy the ride!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-94748197640362842004-05-22T14:46:00.000-04:002004-05-22T14:46:00.000-04:00I'm glad to see you put that Tide blurb into a...I'm glad to see you put that Tide blurb into an entry. I thought it was precious, too. This entry made me smile. You're a beautiful, vivacious woman and you will STILL be that way when you're 90. I bet in your quiet moments, deep down, you know that too. This entry is probably just your hormones talking. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-85546140162686568772004-05-22T18:20:00.000-04:002004-05-22T18:20:00.000-04:00Love it :) and am totally amazed that someone out ...Love it :) and am totally amazed that someone out there--somewhere-had to give a negative opinion and try to analyze ya too--((hugs))keep writing we love it-kymllrAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-55405514734021985802004-05-23T10:27:00.000-04:002004-05-23T10:27:00.000-04:00I laughed, I cried, I was hiding my testicles unti...I laughed, I cried, I was hiding my testicles until the last few paragraphs. Great Job!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-1971834747471201812004-05-23T23:50:00.000-04:002004-05-23T23:50:00.000-04:00Honey, Scremin Remo stole my line! LMAO! You're pr...Honey, Scremin Remo stole my line! LMAO! You're pretty frickin brilliant with the whole Serious-mixed-with-humor routine! BRILLIANT I SAY!!!! That letter was a RIOT! But I would point out that men have tons of problems too! I just can't think of any off the bat. LOL! ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8658622619445499089.post-2903024790407500072004-05-26T22:23:00.000-04:002004-05-26T22:23:00.000-04:00It sounds like you were having a bad man day when ...It sounds like you were having a bad man day when you wrote this. Hope it has passed, for Ray's sake anyhow. ;-) ---RobbieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com