Monday, February 14, 2011

Happy Valentine's Day

Well, here I was, all ready to post a blog about the sickeningly sweet displays of Valentine's Day that will abound today. I was going to grumble about all the money wasted on greetings cards, chocolate, flowers and expensive dinners couples would be buying for each other to 'prove their love'.

I was planning to accuse Hallmark of deliberately inventing such a day, just to increase their profits. I envisioned myself smirking at all the weddings and marriage proposals taking place today. I even thought about recalling my elementary school days, where a shy and lonely little girl may have perceived her entire worth as a person from the amount of Valentine's Day cards she did or didn't get from her classmates.

Being divorced myself, and not having a date for the past two years made me kind of jaded, I guess. Not to mention the menopausal witch who lives inside of me, ever waiting to jump out and rear her ugly head. 

Yep, I was gonna do it up big time. Just about ruin the day for all the happy couples I could find. 

But then, just like in the story 'The Grinch Who Stole Christmas' my teeny little heart warmed and grew. I met a guy on-line and met him for dinner on Saturday night. He was very nice and we talked for three and a half hours. Better yet, we've planned a second date. And although it's very new and may not even go anywhere, I've been reminded what it's like to be a "we". The pleasure of an intimate conversation with a person who wants to know you, not because he's related to you, or works with you, but because he wants to. The warm glow and distant flicker of excitement to think that maybe, just maybe, he may even desire me as a woman. For so long now I have thought of myself only as a mom, a grandmom and a nursing supervisor. The role of woman was rapidly becoming a faded memory.

And even if it doesn't work out, I felt honored to be considered, relieved I still had it in me to get out there and try and blessed to be reminded of what romance is all about.

Relationships are hard. Should we have a day set aside to celebrate love, however much we're lucky to have? You betcha!

Happy Valentine's Day!



8 comments:

rjbrooks55 said...

Well, This is an amazing coincidence, as I also had little interest in Valentine's day. Then, I met a woman on line. We met shortly thereafter and she was very nice. Better yet, we planned a second date. Well, that turned into another date,and...let's just say I began to desire this woman...and I have a feeling we'll be celebrating next Valentine's Day together.

onmiownnow2 said...

Well, Mr. Brooks, it looks as though we both got lucky! Coincidentally, I met my guy on-line, too! He's so perfect for me it's almost as if I custom-ordered him. I doubt that I'll be sending him back. ;-)

rjbrooks55 said...

Well, Miss Vance, I guess we did get lucky because you...er I mean she is perfect for me as well. And I wouldn't send mine back for all the world's riches or eternal life.

onmiownnow2 said...

Awww! You are the sweetest man ever grown, Mr. Brooks! I bet you just melt my, um, I mean her heart!

rjbrooks55 said...

Well. It looks as though we both got what we wanted Miss. I wish you the very best with your new guy. He appears to be a very lucky man.

c8e88596-556e-11e0-901e-000f20980440 said...

The Grinch mentioned on Valentines Day? Talk about mixing holiday metaphors! The inference is so far removed, it goes right over the readers' heads without a paddle. But keep a stiff upper chin, there's no sense beating you with a dead horse. Most blog readers realize that writing a blog is sometimes like throwing the spaghetti onto the ceiling to see what sticks...

rjbrooks55 said...

If that metaphor went over your head...you must not have anything in it.

rjbrooks55 said...

If that metaphor went over your head, you must not have anything in it...